I’m obviously no stranger to the dating scene. Very well versed actually. I’ve been single for about… well let’s not count. Anyway my core group has noticed some trends in our conversations lately.
Our conversations begin “remember when”? Remember when you used to be so excited to see a guy that you just had to stop by even if only for 5 minutes because you missed him that much? Or “remember when” you would just go out and enjoy spending time together doing a bunch of nothing? Or “remember when” a guy actually liked you and you would meet his family? It’s a lot of things on the list that we remember.. and it just isn’t happening anymore. Oh you think it’s just my friends huh?
Nope, it’s actually a bad cycle happening to everyone. There are tons of tik toks about the disconnection that’s happening in the dating phase. Lots of memes saying “if you aren’t ready for her, just leave her alone”.
Oh you think the women are man bashing? Nope. A guy made a tik tok saying let’s just get married and we can date after because dating before marriage just isn’t working. 🤣
Everyone is exhausted. Tired. Fed up. Even me. So many people are carrying hurt from life experiences and not giving the next person a clean slate or lacking the mature communication skills to be honest. I also hear there’s a huge lack of vulnerability on both sides.
So everyone is walking around with limits. I can only “like you with a limit” because I’ve seen some things that make my emotions halt. I can’t trust you fully now or be vulnerable. My friend said “I like him but he’s so inconsistent, I can’t go all in.” That has been the experience of a lot of women.
Are you experiencing this too? How’s the dating world where you are?
I can only give the woman’s perspective so men, add your perspective too. 😊
-B
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