Im not intimidating, you’re just intimidated

I’m all for women empowerment but some things just need to be discussed. There is a post circulating on social media. It says “I’m not intimidating, you’re just intimidated.” Hmm, but what if you are intimidating? Could that be a possibility? I’m forever a student of growing and learning to be the best version of myself. I try to be open about criticism. For example, in two weeks time, two people said I was over whelming. If more than one person describes me in the same way, then I have to sit back and do some self reflection. I love hearing guys talk. I have tons of guy friends and we can talk for hours about the disconnect between men and women. Ladies, I hate to be the one to bring the news but we can be intimidating.

A couple weeks ago, I was sitting at the bar by myself. This guy and I started talking. About 30 mins into the conversation, he said when I sat down, he thought I was stern and meant business. I said dang thats not the energy I was trying to convey. I thought I would be seen as approachable and free. NOPE. I dont know about you, but I dont want to be seen as intimidating. I want to give off fun, free spirit, approachable, and loving. I want my energy to give off good vibes even before you have a conversation with me.

This brings me to another point. I personally dont get mad when people say smile. I might apologize and say sorry I was just in my thoughts. Why do we get mad when people suggest that we smile? I dont want to walk around looking mean all the time. I dont want to have a face that says “Dont dare say sh*t to me.”

I see a lot of post asking how do we make friends as adults. Trust me, adjusting your energy can be a start. Dont take offense when people ask, why do you look so mean. My sister said to me that I just make friends anywhere. She’s right. Because I intentionally try to be nice and approachable.

I’m not saying completely change who you are, but we can all make small adjustments to be better versions of ourselves.

-B

3 thoughts on “Im not intimidating, you’re just intimidated

  1. You are constantly on point, I love it! I don’t think many of us ever looked at it your points this way. Such great advice women should keep in mind!

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  2. Enjoyed your post. Made me laugh because I’ve heard all those comments. I’ve always wondered, maybe some of us have a straight forward face or demeanor, and some have a sweet or pleasant resting face. I’m learning so much about my self and I often remember the words of others, whether harsh or constructive, and I contemplate adjusting a few things.
    You are so on point with this post, can’t wait to read more…

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