There’s a new show on Netflix that has my wheels spinning. The main character Billy finds herself in a safe loving marriage with 2 kids. She starts to reminisce about her wild days in the city as a graduate student when she could stay out all night and still attend class in the morning. Present day, she starts to journal about her deep thrilling romance with her ex and how exhilarating she felt when she was with him. She struggles internally with trying to find solace and appreciation for her current marriage and new mom life. She feels lost and not of herself. She spends countless hours thinking and obsessing about her ex. You can feel her frustration of herself through the screen. She has it all. Handsome husband, 2 kids, big house, wealth, cars, you name it. She just cant seem to figure out after 8 years why she is obsessing about a love that is long lost.
Here’s my take on it. I havent reached the end of the show so I dont know how its going to play out but follow along. Life gets very routine with running a household, taking care of the kids and having a husband. People get upset when women complain that a man is boring but provides everything else. Life should still be fun, exciting and thrilling even in a marriage. She lost herself. She looked in the mirror and couldnt understand how things got to that point. She missed the spice. She missed the moments of unpredictability. But she felt like she couldnt complain to her husband because he was providing such a good life. When the husband found out, he said he was her safe option. That he was the good boy for her. I can see his point in that.
Dont get me wrong, I’m not saying she wants the “bad boy” either, she just wants to feel alive again. Fulfilled. Im no expert but life is about balance. Some women want the guy who is gentle and takes care of her heart but also with a little edge. Just like men say they want a freak in sheets and lady in the streets. Same concept. We just dont have a catchy phrase lol
Let me know your thoughts
-B
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I think it’s very important especially in a committed marriage to to keep the excitement going🧘🏿♂️ some men think because they provide stability that’s that’s all that need to be done! Me my self I once was guilty of that as well 🥹 thinking as long as I provide what else can she possibly want!?! Forgetting that me providing is not what made her fall in love with me it was all the things before that, like giving her flowers because it’s a Monday, spontaneous adventures, reminding her that she is gorgeous everyday, even simple things such as binge watching a show together or even take it back to the beginning dinner and a movie🤔 us men get so caught up with tryna provide a good life we often forget it’s important to live! and create a lifetime of memories with our partner…
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This is so beautifully written. And a very mature approach ❤️
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